Uncomfortable questions about the cost of a wedding and personal boundaries with parents aren’t the only ones that the bride and groom ask themselves. So that the wedding planning doesn’t turn into a path from denial to acceptance, we decided to talk about them now.
«Should we just buy a car or tickets to Bali?»
A wedding is a story about two people, conscious adults, with their own values. If during the preparation their values don’t coincide, this is a reason to think about what is really important for both of you now. Do you want to arrange a holiday for yourself and your family, or just buy a car from the showroom? Do you need it now or are you ready to wait a little longer?
These questions aren’t about your wallet, but about your future family values. Will you experience more emotions during a beautiful ceremony at a wedding or while on holiday in Bali? — a question that you need to honestly answer.
«What should we do so that guests don’t give us awful gifts?»
It’s easy. Just speak to your guests about it: “Please, don’t give us rubbish.” Of course, you should say that very politely, not harshly and directly. For example, you could use the online wishlist service, Atelier16. Inthis article, their representatives explained why you shouldn't be ashamed to do it. It’s important to understand that a well-written wishlist is a guarantee that you will receive a necessary, beautiful and truly wanted gift. This is a convenient and useful opportunity to see what your guests will buy you.
Atelier 16, @jen_wonders
«Do I really need a wedding dress?»
Some girls have dreamed of a wedding since childhood, imagining a luxurious Berta dress. If you are one of them, why can't your dream come true? It’s very easy to implement it because over the past few years wedding salons in Moscow have officially presented dresses by world designers in their spaces.
But if minimalism is close to you and you don't want to be sophisticated, here is a list of non-wedding white dresses that will look no less spectacular or beautiful. Remember that modern brides can do anything possible!
«Is a limousine a sign of bad taste?»
10 years ago, couples really came to the registry office in limousines and decorated their friends' cars with colourful ribbons. Grooms would hardly have dared to put on a pastel suit, and brides asked for more hairspray. But the wedding industry has changed a lot and with it, so has the attitude towards the trends of the 2010s. Limousines are no longer popular, and standing in Moscow traffic jams on the way to a restaurant is much more pleasant in a spectacular Rolls-Royce.
«Is it okay to take out a loan for a wedding?»
A wedding can be as costly as an apartment renovation, but the result is worth it. It’s normal if you have to pay for some of it on credit and you have a plan to pay it back. If you don't want to borrow from friends, banks can always help you out. This is the exact reason why banks were invented.
Otherwise, you can arrange a small chamber wedding, inviting only loved ones, and after a while, organize a celebration where you can invite some pop singers. This kind of gift made the husband in honour of the anniversary for his wife after 10 years of family life. Just because a lack of money isn’t a reason not to get married. The only reason not to marry someone is a lack of love.